I'M SO TIRED!

Hmmm, After 2 births in 24 hours, these words could definitely apply to my own level of energy.  But I was actually thinking about the condition in labor where a mom feels she would do just about anything for a little sleep. 

It is very common for me to hear a mom observe that she is just so tired. She has usually missed a night's sleep from contractions, anxiety over labor beginning, excitement, etc.  She would like to just lay down for a little while, but once she is reclined, the contractions can be so much harder to deal with and her resolve to go forward unmedicated can be challenged.

I have always looked at that "sleepy" attitude as a good sign of active labor.  When a mom looks very shut down and sleepy, I know her endorphins are kicking in and helping her deal with her labor.  But how do you handle this situation and continue to support a mom "moving forward"?  Keeping the reclining period to no more than 30 minutes can help - allowing a mom to rest her legs and body  while actively supporting her through contractions can give her a break.  She may not come out of it feeling that she is  "rested" but she has allowed her body to relax between contractions. And reminding her of the reason she is laying down, to take advantage of the time in between the contractions to just sink into the bed and rest her mind and body.

Using a shower for 30-60 minutes can help a mom to relax and feel "restful" before laying down for that 30 minute period.  I have seen moms actually snore between 2-3 minute contractions catching seconds of rest during the last of labor.  Low lights, soft music, gentle touch, and lots of pillows  can all aid her in feeling that she is resting.

Feeling tired is definitely a part of labor.  Being exhausted and fighting contractions is not where you want to end up. So continue to look for little windows of opportunity to recline or rest while keeping your mind on the ultimate goal of accomplishing the birth of the baby in a healthful, happy way.  And having a doula support the mom and dad in this journey can feel  invaluable.